I love this so, so much. I related in so many aspects, and felt validated. I think, it's still a long way for me to be on that acceptance stage, but your point of view cleared some cobwebbed thoughts inside my head. Thank you for this 🤍
Honestly, despite being at a stage of acceptance right now, I’m sure that I’ll still find myself being really upset in the future if I’m faced with more deteriorating friendships. I think we’re doomed to deal with the five stages of grief for every break up that ever happens😭
The best thing we can do when that does happen is offer ourselves grace through not be too hard on ourselves . As long as you keep your heart open, those friends that are for you will come eventually. I’m sure of it!
Thank you so much! I've been going THROUGH IT but I definitely think I've stepped into a phase of acceptance and understanding. The process isn't easy but we'll get through it eventually.
Loved this beautiful piece so much! Categorizing relationships, especially friendships, feels like attaching labels to jars. You attach it to remember something important placed inside, but it is hard to remove when you decide to change what is inside or no longer need that label anymore. Even when you have removed the label, you still instinctively reach for what was inside of the jar, though it no longer is the same. It is hard to let go or move on, but we hopefully still treasure what we once had with others and use it as an opportunity to grow and create a nurturing foundation for what we find next in life.
hi Chioma! i look forward to reading more of your posts but a quick browse of your work and this title resonated with me immediately so I clicked on it. Firstly, loved the two books you recommended in this post, did you see Dolly's new book is coming out later this year? can't wait.
I found your reflection on friendship as an adult so relatable, I also studied in the UK but I was the international student in this case and since leaving uni I've barely kept in touch with my British friends simply because I moved away / on and we just have such different schedules and life trajectories that the opportunities to maintain the friendships haven't been there. That being said, you're so right that just because the friendship isn't actively being acted on, doesn't mean you didn't gain something from it back then. This has definitely got me thinking... might be something I write a post on.
Thank you for this. I am really struggling with this, accepting situational friendship, still now in my thirties. I feel, as said in the article, as a failure for not forming forever lasting relationships. Bc i don’t really have friendships that are still lasting. I totally am like Jeannette described, like you, it’s who i am and a goal of mine. But i also agree with you on situational friendships and i want to accept them as well and stop going through all stage of griefs everytime. I want to free mysef from this, i need it actually. I don’t know how though. But at least, to know that I’m not alone in this helped a bit. So thank you for this article, for sharing your thoughts and it was lovingly written.
I feel like you've just perfectly articulated my experience of friendship in a way I've been struggling to put into words... I actually feel a little emotional. Thank you for this and I'll be adding To Your Eternity to my watch list ❤️
such a pleasurable explanation you had in here. and here i am. the more ages ive got as bein an adult then it taught me hard on how everything had it owns time. that also had occurring on the term “friends” and yes. as the final conclusion you put there. treasure all those memories we had back then while it last. and as i recalled the pas sights i had on my adolescent time. i am glad that i am ever bein that happy surroundings by those peoples of mine. thank you for this letters
This was such a good read. I always found it difficult to make situational friends because I thought that a person can either be my best buddy or nothing. Letting that mindset go has made my life so much easier and better now I can hangout with people without thinking that i need to make this person my bff and just enjoy the moment. Although I crave friendships that are on a deep and personal level I have learned to appreciate the joy of situational friendships. And your writing made me feel very validated thank you 🤍
Well said!! This is something ive been thinking about and discussing with my school friends since we're all at a transitional stage in our life, so seeing it put into words (that feel like theyve been plucked out of my brain) by another person across the world feels comforting !!
Well said!! This is something ive been thinking about and discussing with my school friends since we're all at a transitional stage in our life, so seeing it put into words (that feel like theyve been plucked out of my brain) by another person across the world feels comforting !!
Wow I relate to this in so many ways..from the situational friendships and international friends during university! Also, great choice of songs! Saram by Agust D is so appropriate for this and one of my favourites too
I love this so, so much. I related in so many aspects, and felt validated. I think, it's still a long way for me to be on that acceptance stage, but your point of view cleared some cobwebbed thoughts inside my head. Thank you for this 🤍
Thank you so much for reading!
Honestly, despite being at a stage of acceptance right now, I’m sure that I’ll still find myself being really upset in the future if I’m faced with more deteriorating friendships. I think we’re doomed to deal with the five stages of grief for every break up that ever happens😭
The best thing we can do when that does happen is offer ourselves grace through not be too hard on ourselves . As long as you keep your heart open, those friends that are for you will come eventually. I’m sure of it!
Absolutely loved this read! It's something we all experience but can't always put it into words. Thank you for yet another great article! ❤
Thank you so much! I've been going THROUGH IT but I definitely think I've stepped into a phase of acceptance and understanding. The process isn't easy but we'll get through it eventually.
Loved this beautiful piece so much! Categorizing relationships, especially friendships, feels like attaching labels to jars. You attach it to remember something important placed inside, but it is hard to remove when you decide to change what is inside or no longer need that label anymore. Even when you have removed the label, you still instinctively reach for what was inside of the jar, though it no longer is the same. It is hard to let go or move on, but we hopefully still treasure what we once had with others and use it as an opportunity to grow and create a nurturing foundation for what we find next in life.
hi Chioma! i look forward to reading more of your posts but a quick browse of your work and this title resonated with me immediately so I clicked on it. Firstly, loved the two books you recommended in this post, did you see Dolly's new book is coming out later this year? can't wait.
I found your reflection on friendship as an adult so relatable, I also studied in the UK but I was the international student in this case and since leaving uni I've barely kept in touch with my British friends simply because I moved away / on and we just have such different schedules and life trajectories that the opportunities to maintain the friendships haven't been there. That being said, you're so right that just because the friendship isn't actively being acted on, doesn't mean you didn't gain something from it back then. This has definitely got me thinking... might be something I write a post on.
Looking forward to reading more of your work!
Great music choice with Agust D :)
Right? He makes fantastic music. Thank you so much for reading!
Thank you for this. I am really struggling with this, accepting situational friendship, still now in my thirties. I feel, as said in the article, as a failure for not forming forever lasting relationships. Bc i don’t really have friendships that are still lasting. I totally am like Jeannette described, like you, it’s who i am and a goal of mine. But i also agree with you on situational friendships and i want to accept them as well and stop going through all stage of griefs everytime. I want to free mysef from this, i need it actually. I don’t know how though. But at least, to know that I’m not alone in this helped a bit. So thank you for this article, for sharing your thoughts and it was lovingly written.
This is just so, enlightening… im currently in my uni arc right now and reading this was a good reminder about friendships. I’ll keep this in mind.
I feel like you've just perfectly articulated my experience of friendship in a way I've been struggling to put into words... I actually feel a little emotional. Thank you for this and I'll be adding To Your Eternity to my watch list ❤️
This is such a wonderful read. Seeing everything I feel/relate to being put in words like this makes me very validated.
such a pleasurable explanation you had in here. and here i am. the more ages ive got as bein an adult then it taught me hard on how everything had it owns time. that also had occurring on the term “friends” and yes. as the final conclusion you put there. treasure all those memories we had back then while it last. and as i recalled the pas sights i had on my adolescent time. i am glad that i am ever bein that happy surroundings by those peoples of mine. thank you for this letters
This was such a good read. I always found it difficult to make situational friends because I thought that a person can either be my best buddy or nothing. Letting that mindset go has made my life so much easier and better now I can hangout with people without thinking that i need to make this person my bff and just enjoy the moment. Although I crave friendships that are on a deep and personal level I have learned to appreciate the joy of situational friendships. And your writing made me feel very validated thank you 🤍
ANOTHER AMAZING ARTICLE!! 👏🏾
Well said!! This is something ive been thinking about and discussing with my school friends since we're all at a transitional stage in our life, so seeing it put into words (that feel like theyve been plucked out of my brain) by another person across the world feels comforting !!
Well said!! This is something ive been thinking about and discussing with my school friends since we're all at a transitional stage in our life, so seeing it put into words (that feel like theyve been plucked out of my brain) by another person across the world feels comforting !!
Wow I relate to this in so many ways..from the situational friendships and international friends during university! Also, great choice of songs! Saram by Agust D is so appropriate for this and one of my favourites too